Fast cars in the Neighborhood

July/10/2009 03:31 PM

I have recently moved to a new single family house in a very quiet suburban housing development. However, there are a few younger drivers (that I have not yet met) that live on my block and tend to drive very fast around a blind corner and past my house. Let's shovel ...

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Adjusting to a Move

July/04/2009 05:39 PM

I need some kick ass advice on an issue facing a friend of mine. He has moved across country and is finding it very hard to adjust to life in the East coast after having lived in NoCal for a good part of his life. Some people, like him, need a daily practice to stay grounded. His was surfing...which we don't have here where he lives. He keeps looking to me for advice but, he really doesn't listen. What would you suggest Let's shovel ...

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So Damn Happy but ...

July/04/2009 05:04 PM

I'm not sure if it's because I'm so damn happy these days and friends want what I've been smokin'

or if I've just noticed that i have a lot of miserable/negative people in my life. Let's shovel ...

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Laid-off and livid

June/27/2009 09:15 PM

I was recently laid off. Although this is ultimately a positive change for me, the experience was shocking and horrible. I handled it professionally but I harbor some resentment to some of those in the office who knew I was "on the list" early on but did nothing to warn me. I haven't acted out on my resentment or burned any bridges.... Let's shovel ...

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Facebook - When a Friend is not a Friend.

June/27/2009 08:53 PM

My high school age daughter has lots of "friends" on Facebook. One young man is always trying to force his political and religious views on others by repeatedly posting offensive comments and putting down those that disagree with him. Let's shovel ...

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Raising Teens - Addressing the Weight Issues.

June/26/2009 10:50 AM

My 17 year old daughter is beautiful and a very normal weight for her age. She looks just great. (When) She weighed in at her annual checkup and was very unhapppy with her weight (she is also an athelete so she has good muscle tone which may add a couple of pounds). Many of her friends aspire to being as thin as they can. I think she understands that she shouldn't worry about it too much, and as a former anorexic myself, I am overly sensitive to her feelings on this, but she immediately asked me to change the foods i buy for the household AND not to discuss it with her. Let's shovel ...

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Frustrated with Customer Service - How do you get their attention?

June/23/2009 05:49 PM

I watched a woman ask for help at a local store yesterday and the store representative was almost completely unhelpful. The customer walked away in a huff and out loud made a snide comment. I thought, that's how I feel too when there's no exchange, no effort, no interest from the other side ... especially when I think they will be there to help.
Let's shovel ...

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Making Amends - Why do I say I'm sorry?

June/21/2009 10:37 PM

Debbie:

I'm much better at taking care of myself than I used to be. What I'd love some kick-ass advice on is when I call someone on breaking an agreement with me, and they get angry and then avoid me or don't talk to me, my instinct is to apologize, though I have nothing to apologize for. Let's shovel ...

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Trauma Triage - How to help in times of trauma

June/19/2009 10:31 PM

Debbie:

Lately, a few people important to my life have suffered traumatic experiences or are in the depths of depression. I want to help, listen and make a difference but I am not sure what to say. I am not trained but I have had many life experiences that have taught me a lot of dealing with adversity and sadness. I also know people wont listen until they are ready. Is there something I can say that will comfort them as well as direct them to a better-feeling place without sounding cliche or insensitive? Let's shovel ...

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The Games We Play - Skills learned early

June/18/2009 07:02 PM

Debbie, my son is nine and is starting to learn about the games people play. The young lady who calls herself his "girlfriend" but then torments him by calling from other boy's houses and saying "I am at my other boyfriends house..." and other mean things. Let's shovel ...

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Toddler Turmoil - Controlling the Schedule

June/18/2009 01:01 PM

Debbie - I have a three-year-old daughter who is such a joy. She attends preschool three days per week and is at home with me the rest of the time. I am surrounded by moms who have enrolled their children in every conceivable class, be it music or sports or art or languages. Help! - Jennifer Let's shovel ...

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Nit-Picking Boss - Turning a negative into a positive.

June/18/2009 12:19 PM

Hello, Debbie. Thank you for your column. I could use some kick-ass advice about my boss. He is a really nice guy when he’s relaxed, which is rare, but most of the time he’s incredibly negative, always finding what’s wrong with what I do, always nit-picking me and everyone else. It frustrates me...and also hurts my feelings. What can I do? Let's shovel ...

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Greening your Inner Ecology by Deb Robins

June/07/2009 11:30 PM

Buddhism teaches that to be human is to suffer, but I believe that to be human is to shovel those piles of crap we deal with 24/7. So let’s get going! Let's shovel ...

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Kick Ass Advice by Debbie Robins

May/29/2009 07:38 PM

My vocation, expertise... my passions are in helping people successfully overcome the negative coping mechanisms we all use to meet life’s challenges. Let's shovel ...

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