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Fast is Sexy
March/31/09 12:18 PM Filed in: Lisa says
The blog I started tonight was about the value of
silence and calm in our worlds. How in a time of
email and cell phone and kids and dogs and every
other commitment you can think of, a few minutes
of pure silence, of sitting with yourself, is an
amazing thing.
…then
I watched the new James Bond movie. And here’s
the thing…fast is sexy. So is confidence, calm in
the face of diversity, tall women in short
skirts, high heels, piercing blue eyes, cavalier
disregard for authority, massive explosions,
muscles, and quizzical half smiles.
But here’s what gets me. So, apparently, are slightly too tight white pants. Too tight white pants? What? I’m strictly a 501s girl. To me, Brad Pitt in Thelma and Louise is pretty much the single sexiest thing on the face of the planet.
So where do snugly fitting white pants come in? Context. It’s all about the context.
As I’ve aged (no comments from the peanut gallery, thank you), I have come to realize that there is nothing objective about sexy. Remember in elementary school when we learned about absolute value? No such thing when it comes to sexy. It’s all about context, or who and where.
Take, for example, lifeguards. I don’t mean to disrespect them as a…species? I can only speak for my single experience. When you’re hanging out at the beach at Ocean City, Maryland, the lifeguard in the chair behind the condo ranks right up there with chocolate, ice cream, and five carat diamonds as stuff girls want.
The
summer after I graduated from high school, my
friends and I adored him daily. His blond, blond
hair. His tan. White teeth. The way he deftly
maneuvered that life saving board thing. Dreamy.
Sighing. Stayed up at night on the balcony teary
eyed after having too many drinks because you
weren’t with him, dreamy.
He was all we all wanted.
And then one night…we went to a party at his apartment. First of all: maggots in the kitchen sink. Yummy. Then, we actually talked to him. Well, talked at him.
Because outside that lifeguard chair, his world, his context, dissolved. It was like talking to…well…no one. I remember my friend Kelly grabbing my arm at one point and begging me not to make eye contact with her, for fear she would burst out laughing at him.
Without the context, he was just another guy.
Or take pool players. Yes, pool players. If you are an aspiring billiards player, you find yourself in smoky pool rooms drawn to the guy who can make that double kiss into the side pocket shot. They are gods. They move with an ease unparalleled in the universe, a quiet cadence of cue ball hitting target ball rolling into a pocket.
Sigh.
But let me warn you…don’t let them out into the light of day.
Because it isn’t pretty. Sexy, once again, is context. That expert pool player you swooned after in the neighborhood bar? Not so good at dinner with your parents.
Still don’t believe me?
Look
at your college professors. Or look at mine. My
international relations professor was just about
perfect to me. He knew so much. How many co-eds
dreamed of him? Hundreds. Maybe even thousands.
Did I mention he was overweight, unkempt, arrogant, and half blind? Sort of a Jerry Garcia with an intellectual attitude? Not pretty once you got him out of the classroom.
Don’t get me wrong. There is sexy without context. Soft kisses about love, not lust. Quiet confidence and sense of place in the world. Willingness to help clean the kitchen or do the laundry.
Feeling someone reach for you and pull you close in the middle of the night. An unmatched rhythm of life. That is sexy that traverses all boundaries, all context, and that lasts.
So I wonder….if James Bond wasn’t a super sexy MI5 agent, would slightly tight white pants work on him? Sorry, James…I’m guessing no.
But here’s what gets me. So, apparently, are slightly too tight white pants. Too tight white pants? What? I’m strictly a 501s girl. To me, Brad Pitt in Thelma and Louise is pretty much the single sexiest thing on the face of the planet.
So where do snugly fitting white pants come in? Context. It’s all about the context.
As I’ve aged (no comments from the peanut gallery, thank you), I have come to realize that there is nothing objective about sexy. Remember in elementary school when we learned about absolute value? No such thing when it comes to sexy. It’s all about context, or who and where.
Take, for example, lifeguards. I don’t mean to disrespect them as a…species? I can only speak for my single experience. When you’re hanging out at the beach at Ocean City, Maryland, the lifeguard in the chair behind the condo ranks right up there with chocolate, ice cream, and five carat diamonds as stuff girls want.
He was all we all wanted.
And then one night…we went to a party at his apartment. First of all: maggots in the kitchen sink. Yummy. Then, we actually talked to him. Well, talked at him.
Because outside that lifeguard chair, his world, his context, dissolved. It was like talking to…well…no one. I remember my friend Kelly grabbing my arm at one point and begging me not to make eye contact with her, for fear she would burst out laughing at him.
Without the context, he was just another guy.
Or take pool players. Yes, pool players. If you are an aspiring billiards player, you find yourself in smoky pool rooms drawn to the guy who can make that double kiss into the side pocket shot. They are gods. They move with an ease unparalleled in the universe, a quiet cadence of cue ball hitting target ball rolling into a pocket.
Sigh.
But let me warn you…don’t let them out into the light of day.
Because it isn’t pretty. Sexy, once again, is context. That expert pool player you swooned after in the neighborhood bar? Not so good at dinner with your parents.
Still don’t believe me?
Did I mention he was overweight, unkempt, arrogant, and half blind? Sort of a Jerry Garcia with an intellectual attitude? Not pretty once you got him out of the classroom.
Don’t get me wrong. There is sexy without context. Soft kisses about love, not lust. Quiet confidence and sense of place in the world. Willingness to help clean the kitchen or do the laundry.
Feeling someone reach for you and pull you close in the middle of the night. An unmatched rhythm of life. That is sexy that traverses all boundaries, all context, and that lasts.
So I wonder….if James Bond wasn’t a super sexy MI5 agent, would slightly tight white pants work on him? Sorry, James…I’m guessing no.
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